Who Uses Dildos? Exploring Age and Gender Trends in Toy Enjoyment

Dildos are no longer hidden or taboo—they’ve made their way into mainstream conversations about selfcare, intimacy, and fun! But who’s actually using them? When we look at age and gender, the distribution is broader and more varied than most might think. From curious young adults to seasoned users, people of all ages and genders are embracing dildos as part of personal exploration, partner play, or simply enjoying life’s little pleasures.

1. Age Distribution: From Millennials to Mature Explorers

 Young Adults (1825): For many young adults, exploring dildos can be an entry into discovering their body and preferences. This age group often chooses softer, beginnerfriendly options. With increased openness and access to information, many in this age range view dildos as a normal, healthy part of selfcare and sexual discovery.

 MidLifers (2645): People in their late twenties to forties tend to be more experienced in what they enjoy. They’re likely to seek specific types of dildos, whether it’s a realistic option or something with unique features like vibration or heating. This group has embraced selfcare practices and often buys toys as couples for added excitement.

 Mature and Older Adults (45+): Forget the stereotype—many older adults are enjoying dildos too! With the advent of menopause or lifestyle changes, some people in this group find dildos helpful for maintaining intimacy. Age isn’t a barrier; it’s simply a new stage of exploration, often leading to a better understanding of what brings personal and partnered pleasure.

Fun Fact: According to a study from the American Journal of Sexual Health, nearly 35% of individuals over 55 have purchased a sex toy, showing that curiosity and selfcare truly have no age limit!

2. Gender and Sexual Orientation: Breaking Down Barriers

While dildos are often marketed towards women, people across the gender spectrum use them. The diversity in shapes, sizes, and designs means there’s something for everyone, regardless of gender identity or orientation.

 Women: Women make up a large portion of dildo users, with dildos often used as part of selfcare routines or to enhance intimacy with partners. Women from all age groups, particularly in younger generations, see dildos as a tool for empowerment, exploring their desires, and achieving comfort with their bodies.

 Men: While not traditionally associated with dildos, more men are exploring their pleasure with these toys, especially prostatespecific dildos. There is a growing interest in using dildos for pegging or solo play. For those who like experimenting, dildos can add a new layer of sensation and discovery.

 NonBinary and Transgender Individuals: Dildos are also a popular option for nonbinary and transgender people. Genderneutral designs allow people of all identities to feel included, and many designs cater to a variety of anatomies. Nonbinary and trans communities often advocate for toy diversity, so brands have responded with inclusive designs.

3. Dildo Types That Match Personal Preferences Across Ages and Genders

Whether someone is looking for a realistic, vibrating, or uniquely shaped dildo, preferences vary widely but are highly individualized.

 Realistic Dildos: These are often preferred by midlifers and older adults who appreciate lifelike designs. They provide a grounded, natural experience that can be either solo or partnered.

 Fantasy Dildos: Younger adults, especially those in the LGBTQ+ community, are more likely to experiment with unconventional shapes and colors. These dildos allow for playful exploration without needing to “fit” any stereotype.

 ProstateSpecific Dildos: Popular with men and anyone interested in anal stimulation, these are crafted to target the prostate, enhancing experiences and bringing new possibilities to the table.

Quick Joke Break: What did one dildo say to the other? “If you’ve got it, flaunt it!” And really, that’s the spirit—selfcare with a touch of fun.

Whoever you are and whatever your reason, dildos cater to a wide range of preferences and identities. It’s about embracing what feels good, breaking down the barriers, and knowing that pleasure is universal!

Sources 

 American Journal of Sexual Health, "Age and Trends in Sexual Wellness Products"

 Sexuality Research and Social Policy, "The Evolving Market for GenderInclusive Sexual Health Products"