BDSM for Beginners: 5 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life Rosetoy-Official

by Scarlett Mitchell

BDSM for Beginners: 5 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life

Happy New Year! We encourage you to focus on trying new and fun things! We've heard from close friends that they usually have the lowest "libido" during holidays due to overeating.

Let's see how to boost libido and light yourself up with some sexy flames from BDSM! Whether you're single (and enjoying it) or sexually adventurous(that's awesome!), there are many different BDSM play Ideas you can try on your own to see which one is the best (of all) can boost your libido. Of course, if you already have a high-quality sex toy that is a great starting point for making for an exciting addition to the bedroom. Of course, there are many other toys that you can use by yourself or with your partner.

 

1. Temperature Play

Let's start simple. The temperature game is simple, and a great way to start BDSM and see what your body prefers. Perfect for play by yourself or with a partner, grab a handful of ice cubes from the fridge and slide them over your sensitive parts: neck, inner thighs, waist, anywhere that can elicit a titillating response!

Or, try pouring some warm water over the glass/alloy dildo in cold weather. You can also try the heat game with essential oil candles, but you need to make sure you use the correct low-temperature candle which won't burn anyone!

2. Boundary Test or Teasing

The boundary test refers to understanding the limits of what you are comfortable with or extending the senses to make the pleasure more powerful. For example, if your masturbation usually takes five minutes to achieve orgasm, the boundary test is to try to extend the time before achieving orgasm. Or, if you typically masturbate several times a week, then only one orgasm a week will make your masturbation orgasm stronger.

When you are with a partner, if you are in a master-slave relationship, sometimes the submissive will ask the master for permission to please her/him. During sex, you can (carefully) test your partner's pain tolerance using the boundary test. For example, if you're using a vibrator in foreplay, you usually start with the lowest level of vibration and then gradually increase the level, which is also a boundary test.

Likewise, teasing can be seen as a boundary test. If you want to tease her/him before sex, you can fondle her/his genitals and other sensitive body areas, and she/he will surely be obsessed with it.

3. Impact play

You can start BDSM with impact play. You can also spank/slap/whip other body parts, such as the butt, or the back (of course, avoid hitting bony parts of the body). Buy a whip, try as much as you can, and surprise yourself with the pleasurable experiences of different parts of your body. As with any way of BDSM, please keep yourself comfortable. In other words, be safe!

4. Restraints

Finally, it comes to the one we have all been looking forward to - restraints. You know what to do: Ropes, blindfolds, anything you can use to tie yourself or your partner is part of the game (yes, that includes old t-shirts and scarves from your closet). But be careful - although there is a lot of joy in exploring control and authority in restraints, you'll want to take a close look at the dos and don'ts of restraints, because it will be dangerous without taking proper precautions.

5. Virtual BDSM

For those looking to meet sexy strangers online or for couples who like to show some bedroom sexual activities, virtual communities are a great place to explore BDSM, while maintaining a safe social distance! There are many online BDSM dating sites, as well as social networks like Fetlife for people who want to practice BDSM and make friends. Of course, there are traditional video recordings, where you record yourself and strangers watching and commenting on your performance.

No matter how you practice BDSM, make sure to do it in a safe, consensual relationship. Especially online, it will be better to cover your face (eyes or mouth) with a mask or not show your face completely to ensure anonymity.

 

Finally, whether you're playing by yourself or with a partner, remember to be safe and committed to the goal of pleasure. The world of BDSM is dangerous and fascinating, don't worry, explore your sexual fantasies and fetishes slowly. We hope you'll try out some of the techniques yourself, and have fun exploring new fetishes in your bedroom!

 

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